Dating Quotes

Online Dating Sites - Tinder: Best for 18-35 years old looking for casual sex, casual and short-term dating; Plenty of Fish: Best for 22-33 years old looking for casual sex and causal dating; OKCupid: Best for 22-45 years old looking for everything (friends, casual sex, kinky sex, casual dating, relationships and marriage); Match.com: Best for 27+ years old looking for dating, relationships and marriage; eHarmony: Best for 35+ years old looking for serious relationships and marriage. [2016] - Lisa Hoehn

When you list the acceptable age range of your match, don't go with ages either exclusively younger or exclusively older than your own. Even if you're sure that you want to date either older or younger, blatantly stating age-related deal-breaking parameters for the world to see can make you look close-minded, shallow, and ageist-and will lower your chances with all matches, no matter their age. [2016] - Lisa Hoehn

You should post four to seven photos. Limit yourself to two pro pics-and opt for casually snapped images to fill the gaps. There are five main types of images to consider: Clarity shot, personality shot, action shot, social shot and full-body shot. If you're a man, don't smile! And don't look directly into the camera. Just don't scowl, either. But if you do look into the camera, smile-with your teeth showing. [2016] - Lisa Hoehn

Three free photo editing apps: 1. Google Snapseed (Upload your image to Snapseed and go to "tune image." From there, use the Auto Adjust button, and voila-the app has corrected brightness, ambience, contrast, saturation, shadows, highlights, and warmth. Hit save); 2. VSCOcam; 3. Instagram. [2016] - Lisa Hoehn

An easy-to-follow formula that you can apply to almost any profile: Write an interesting statement about your own experience with said topic or interest, then follow it up with an open-ended question that's either directly related to your first statement or is about something else in the profile. No "hi," "hello," or "hey there." Limit your first message to two to three sentences. Sign your first name at the end of your message, but don't give a sign off (no "all best," "cheers," or even "I hope to hear from you.") [2016] - Lisa Hoehn

For guys, the average response rate for messages is around 20 percent. [2016] - Lisa Hoehn

Online dating sites and mobile dating apps give you mate-search superpowers. Each site or app tends to specialize in different mating goals (e.g. AdultFriendFinder for casual sex with "hot, horny singles...NOW!," Tinder and Zoosk for short-term dating, Match.com, eHarmony, and PlentyofFish for longer-term relationship, OKCupid for polyamory). [2015] - Tucker Max

Use OkCupid to Find the City for You: Join OkCupid and answer at least 300 questions in about an hour. Set your search radius to 500 miles around the seven key American cities (New York - ZIP Code 11211, Chicago - ZIP Code 60601, Tallahassee, Florida - ZIP Code 32311, Dallas - ZIP Code 75201, Denver - ZIP Code 80201, Portland - ZIP Code 97209, Los Angeles - ZIP Code 90046). They cover more than 90 percent of American and Canadian women. Cities with more than 50 high matches are great mating markets for you. [2015] - Tucker Max

If you have a lean body, wear a slim turtleneck, jeans that don't hang on you, and even a form-fitting sport coat instead of a boxy one. [2014] - Pepper Schwartz

A dinner date works best when you know the two of you have a lot in common and a lot to talk about. If you hardly know each other at all, a dinner date isn't the best option because it requires a lot of conversation before you've gotten to know each other. [2014] - Pepper Schwartz

Research by Dr. Janet Lever and Dr. Rosanna Hertz shows that even in 2013, most women preferred to be paid for on a date, but an increasing number of men wanted women to offer to pay the bill at least some of the time. [2014] - Pepper Schwartz

Means Contribution - an arrangement in which you and your date contribute to expenses according to your means. For example, you can say, "I know you love the ballet. What if I contribute the tickets and dinner and you pay for the parking?" Or, "Tell you what, what if I take us out this weekend and you make dinner at your place the weekend after?" [2014] - Pepper Schwartz

Here are some reasons you may have chemistry but no second date: 1) The person is on a serious hunt for "the one." He doesn't think that's you, and he doesn't want to waste time, no matter how great you are. 2) The person is still emotionally attached to someone else. 3) The person is just charming. Everyone feels chemistry with him, but he's actually very picky about who to get involved with. 4) Some crisis intervenes, and the person is no longer in the mood for dating. Don't take it personally; move on and don't worry about it. Look for a true connection. [2014] - Pepper Schwartz

Ten signs of a solid and worthy relationship: 1) Your date is always or almost always on time. 2) Your date's relationship with family and friends are warm and intact. 3) Your date tells you how much you mean to him. 4) Your date notices when you're unhappy and wants to help. 5) Your date doesn't get jealous. 6) Your date thinks of ways to please you. 7) Your date has good boundaries and you respect them. 8) Your date has active, happy, fulfilled days. 9) Your date is generally in a good mood. 10) Your date is affectionate and sexually interested in you. [2014] - Pepper Schwartz

How someone treats you is a reflection of who that person is, not who you are. If someone is cruel toward you or makes harsh judgments about you based on a brief interaction, it reflects that person's inconsiderate behavior or judgmental predisposition, rather than being an indication of any shortcomings on your part. Therefore, if someone does respond critically or harshly toward you, you might consider whether that's really the kind of person you'd want to have a relationship with. Entering a relationship with someone who's hypercritical is a recipe for an unhealthy and unhappy dynamic, no matter how attractive or accomplished that person may be. In this case, you can view rejection as a blessing in disguise, saving you from going out with someone who's unkind. [2014] - Shannon Kolakowski

Research has shown that practicing mindful breathing for forty-five minutes daily for eight weeks can significantly reduce anxiety. Studies have shown that denying or trying to avoid upsetting emotions leads to greater anxiety, whereas being accepting and tolerant of those emotions leads to less distress. [2014] - Shannon Kolakowski

Some people react to anxiety not by withdrawing, but by seeking attachment to a someone who isn't a good fit for them or doesn't reciprocate their feelings. It's natural to want to be liked and accepted, particularly for people who struggle with self-doubt and low self-esteem. But sometimes getting caught up in wanting to be liked detracts from the equally important issue of deciding whether the other person is someone you want to be with. [2014] - Shannon Kolakowski

Don't be afraid to trust your instincts. Instincts are different than urges. Whereas urges occur as a reaction to anxiety, instincts are natural feelings you get when you consider the relationship as a whole. While feeling comfortable and self-confident around someone new can take time, there are certain indicators that a person may not be good relationship material: being argumentative or disrespectful, being late on a regular basis, making jokes at your expense, expecting you to pay for everything, calling at the last minute or infrequently, or ignoring your calls. It's best to let these people go, even if it means being single a big longer, rather than to settle and then spend months or years feeling discontent or trying to change your partner. Don't be afraid to end it. Someone better for you will come along. [2014] - Shannon Kolakowski

Research indicates that people who fear being single often end up settling for less in their relationships. Struggling with shyness and anxiety can exacerbate this fear of being single. But settling for someone who doesn't really hold the qualities you desire isn't the only choice you have. Regardless of whether you are shy or anxious, setting your sights on finding a compatible partner who can enhance your life is crucial to your satisfaction. [2014] - Shannon Kolakowski

So often, people sacrifice hope because they fear being let down. The truth is, we can't avoid disappointment or being hurt; it's part of life. It's important to recognize that the sweet spots in life, the truly meaningful moments, may include some disappointments as well as hope. Allowing yourself to face the possibility of disappointment and even embrace the idea of being uncomfortable is a freeing way to live. It stretches your limits and increases your capacity to experience joy and meaning in life. If you allow both hope and disappointment, both fear and excitement, to exist within you, you can embrace the good that comes your way while knowing that you can deal with whatever difficulties arise. [2014] - Shannon Kolakowski